Social Dynamics

I have to wonder why it is that women have so much trouble getting along with other women. It makes perfect sense to me...it’s more logical, fun, and easy to befriend a man. My male friends tend to word things more considerately, whereas my female friends tend to be more blunt. On the other hand, I must word things tactfully when responding to female friends, but need to focus on being direct when advising male friends. How odd.

Of course, there are exceptions and generalizations, but a lot of the trouble might have to do with age. I’m almost thirty. If I have an issue with my boyfriend, I don’t have to overanalyze for a week and have a meltdown over it before I think about maybe possibly telling him--and only after I’ve consulted with at least four female friends. I just communicate directly and tell him. Person to person. Why does that seem so weird to other women?

And what’s with the alpha female thing? In a group of women, I don’t usually experience it. In a mixed group, though, it’s always as if one woman has to be ‘in charge’ of everyone and it just makes everything so complicated. I always put a kink in everyone’s plans because I don’t just go along with what everyone else does...not in a peer pressure way but if ten people are sitting there saying Obama sucks, I’ll still shrug and nonchalantly disagree.

 Seriously...it must be hard for people to be that strong. I am that strong, and I still have a long way to go.