Is It Settling Or Accepting?

Okay - once again I found myself flipping the channel and pausing on Dr. Phil for too long again tonight. But the topic was a good one even though I think it was a re-run. And before I forget, can someone not give Dr. Phil a run for his money in the t.v. therapy world? Don't think Wendy Williams is cutting it! lol - Anyways, back to specific issue at hand.

So the show was about racing to the altar & there was a woman who was 49 who wanted to have children and was ready to get married to a guy pretty much to simply have a father for her child. So the whole issue comes to women and their biological clock (which I believe men have them as well, they just aren't as urgent w/out a uterus) and if the woman then becomes desperate to the point of taking pretty much anything that comes her way or if she is simply accepting the fact that prince charming hasn't found her door step yet, and possibly never will...in other words, reality check please!

I see both sides of this fence but really question if anyone who commits to anything or anyone for the rest of their life isn't "settling" in some way. I mean why is it called "settling down" if you aren't "settling"? Hmmmmm....I must say that Dr. Phil did bring up a good point concerning a thin line b/w getting certain needs met versus just bad judgement. His formula was 80/20 concerning getting the most ideal partner. 80% being getting what you feel you need & deserve - leaving 20% to work on as long as it wasn't deal breaking stuff - you know - the cheating, beating stuff. But then when this lady really wanted to stand up and allow herself to be an example of what 49 & still single looks like, you had to give her credit & thank her for the dose of reality out there. Oh & her telling Dr. Phil he wasn't "God" was priceless. I'm surprised he didn't put his tale between his legs and shuffle himself off the stage.

There was also a lady on there from some show called "The Southern Bells". Hate I missed that one. She said she called off her engagement after a guy cheated on her twice. Once again, hmmmm. She brings up that for some reason men feel justified in cheating after an argument. She says that she didn't call off the wedding because (like her hair) "in the south" things are pushed so much to be perfect. Guess this would include the husband being so. The jaded 49 yr old woman brings up a point of alot of men cheat. She's 30 now, what would she do at 40 if her man cheated? Also, are you willing to give up that hot 6ft+ cheater for that short, average or less than average frumpy going bald guy? Nobody ever said life wasn't about trade offs! I also get a little annoyed when every looks at Dr. Phil & his wife as the end all for marriages. I mean let's get real, they both are a little fake and cheesy. And he may not go out and cheat, but he really likes those women like his wife that are all prim, proper and with smiles all the time. Even kissed one on the show one time and you could tell he was waiting the whole show to do it.

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