Full Time Mom Deserves a Day Off too!
By shelomita, Wednesday, September 22, 2010 There is one day, sometimes two, in a week when the Dad gets to enjoy his day off from work. Those days are typical to most Dad in the world: lazy, hobby, hang out with friends, do nothing, play with the kids, etc. A bunch of activities may be included in those special days, but are household works included in the list?
A Dad may wash the car on the weekend, clean his golf club, focus on his gardening things. But do they wash the dirty dishes? Do they vacuum the floor? Do they tidy the messy room? This fact has been lingering in my mind formulating a question: when the Dad gets to take a rest or break from his routines at home, where should the Mom go for a one day break in a week?
You may say things like: go to the mall, spoil yourself at a Spa, go for shopping, etc. Of course those suggestions are good and certainly can make a beautiful day. But what is the point if Mom MUST do the dirty dishes, laundry, cooking dinner and so on at the end of that particular day? Dad gets 24 hours day off and Mom, not even half of it??
I would say that this is an imbalance situation because when the Dad works hard in his office, Mom also works hard at home. Both are working people, yet only one gets the day off.
Old people saying: Mom, you can't complaint! It is your destiny, so you have to live it! A full time mother should indeed be devoted to serve her husband and children for her entire life and does not deserve a break even for one day. Well, this is me saying: Said who??!!
Dad and Mom are a team. It is actually a partnership rather than a landlord-servant-ship. Each one has the same right to take a rest from the routines. Every one has the same rights to get refreshed at least once a week. No one has been working harder than the other. Both work hard for the family. Dad earns a living, Mom ensure that their way of living is on the right track and this include the children's future.
So having thought of that, I proposed a one day off to my husband. My day off refers to sharing chores. Meaning: when my husband gets his off day from work he actually works at home by doing some of my routines. We decided in those days, he would do the vacuuming, make breakfast, take the kids for a bath and spend the rest of the day for whatever he wants. Whilst me, I would be doing the mopping, washing the dirty dishes, and tidy the messy room and also gets to spend the rest of the day for whatever I want to do. Then there will be a particular day when we only do vacuuming and mopping and spend the rest of the days doing nothing but relaxing.
Some Dad who happened to read this thought of mine may disagree. But all I am saying is actually: Please try to see the world from the Mom's point of view, and if you can share your dreams, happiness, for better for worse...then sharing chores should not be a problem. Let say it is on the "worse" part.

















