Is it considered SPAM if it's from your mother?

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Is it considered SPAM if it's from your mother?

So, it appears that my mother has made a New Year's resolution. She is emailing me daily (and who knows who else) with a "reading" from a calendar she has had for ten years. She doesn't sign the messages. She just transcribes the text and quotes from her calendar into an email (and misspells many of the words).

This is the same woman who moved to the DC area from the west coast last September and has yet to call me. We spoke on her birthday in early November. I made a difficult decision not to call her on Thanksgiving.

She never contacted me.

Between Thanksgiving and Christmas, she began sending her "joke" emails again. I'm on some list she has that she uses to forward inappropriate jokes. Nothing is ever personal or directed to me. Nothing is what I would consider actual personal communication about her life or how she is doing.

For Christmas I attempted an emotionally neutral email to her. I said I hadn't heard from her in a long time, and I didn't know how she was doing on her transition to her mother-in-law's home. I wished her well in the new year, yadda, yadda, yadda.

Nothing.

Then, January 1st comes along and suddenly she has decided to share her daily reading with me and an unknown number of others. Each day it infuriates me. I know she probably has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (based only on my own personal research). My partner kindly tells me, "It is more important for her to send the messages than it is for you to read them." That makes sense to me, but I still get sick to my stomach with each daily message.

I was to "unsubscribe." I didn't ask for this. I don't want this. And yet, I'm sure it's her version of communicating. I still want to give her the benefit of the doubt. Argh! I'm being SPAM'd by my mother! And I'm not sure what to do about it.

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Is it considered SPAM if it's from your mother?

~~Oh, I feel for you.  I

~~Oh, I feel for you.  I have told people to not forward me jokes and chain letters etc...Only Personal Notes. Tell your mother this.  She sounds quite selfish...You may have to accept that.  But I can understand your frustration completely....  ~~Kim


Is it considered SPAM if it's from your mother?

Damn. I'm always complaining

Damn. I'm always complaining my mom wants to be too involved in my life. I need to thank her for that I guess. I'm so sorry that you have an annoying daily reminder of how strange family can be. Solution? You could always put in a filter on your email!

Stephanie Davis Smith

National Web Editor of skirt.com


Is it considered SPAM if it's from your mother?

Greener grass...

Yeah, friendly involvement is one thing. Family-SPAM is another! No involvement at all would be fine for me, except for the guilt factor. That's the hardest part to deal with because I still think that she thinks I should be calling her. Maybe it's really all in my own head and she doesn't care at all? Of course, one of the last times I did speak with her she made some reference to "I thought you were mad at me." It's like dealing with a adolescent child. I want to just say, "If you want to talk to me, you know how to use the phone." Then, if I decide to create an email filter and just ignore her emails, I think I'll miss something important. But when has that ever happened??? {shaking my head} Argh!!!

RollerWomyn (Robin L. Bernstein) Nobody Puts Robin in a Corner


Is it considered SPAM if it's from your mother?

Family spam

Ok some of the stuff my uncle sends is funny or sweet or whatever, but enough already! I get 2-3 emails a day from him, granted he has dyslexia and can't work because a horrible accident, but all he does is look for fowarded email to send to me. It doesn't matter that I got all the same ones a year, a month or even a week ago...I get them again and again. How do you tell someone who can't do anything else and who loves to get on the computer and "communicate" that you can't stand it and to please stop. What do I do? I just delete them. Sad but true, I just can't break his heart and tell him to stop. I hope you have better luck with yours!

~Laura


Is it considered SPAM if it's from your mother?

How to delete the emotions, too.

Laura, thank you! And to take my mother's versions a step further, I once got a forwarded email from her to my work email and it was a cartoon with naked people in it!!!! I had a talk with her about how inappropriate that was (and could have gotten me fired) and she took it to mean she wasn't allowed to email anymore - ever! {dramatic sigh here} I'm trying the "just delete it" tactic right now, but it doesn't seem to be deleting my emotions. I guess that's mine to deal with anyway, though. Thanks for the support!

RollerWomyn (Robin L. Bernstein) Nobody Puts Robin in a Corner


Is it considered SPAM if it's from your mother?

Same song next verse

Yep. Get SPAM emails from dysfunctional mother. Check. Feel frustration with each receipt. Check. Delete them since asking for them to stop opens a can of worms that even I won't tackle. Check. Delete, delete, delete. Just delete. Haha. And don't tell any therapist I said so. "Trust Life's unfolding..."


Is it considered SPAM if it's from your mother?

Your secret is safe with me!

HaHaHa! I'm singing, "Delete. Delete. Delete."

RollerWomyn (Robin L. Bernstein) Nobody Puts Robin in a Corner


Is it considered SPAM if it's from your mother?

Just received January 5

Yep. She's on a roll. Yep. I hit delete!

RollerWomyn (Robin L. Bernstein) Nobody Puts Robin in a Corner


 
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