Is it considered SPAM if it's from your mother?
By Anya Tukhus, Monday, January 4, 2010, 8 commentsSo, it appears that my mother has made a New Year's resolution. She is emailing me daily (and who knows who else) with a "reading" from a calendar she has had for ten years. She doesn't sign the messages. She just transcribes the text and quotes from her calendar into an email (and misspells many of the words).
This is the same woman who moved to the DC area from the west coast last September and has yet to call me. We spoke on her birthday in early November. I made a difficult decision not to call her on Thanksgiving.
She never contacted me.
Between Thanksgiving and Christmas, she began sending her "joke" emails again. I'm on some list she has that she uses to forward inappropriate jokes. Nothing is ever personal or directed to me. Nothing is what I would consider actual personal communication about her life or how she is doing.
For Christmas I attempted an emotionally neutral email to her. I said I hadn't heard from her in a long time, and I didn't know how she was doing on her transition to her mother-in-law's home. I wished her well in the new year, yadda, yadda, yadda.
Nothing.
Then, January 1st comes along and suddenly she has decided to share her daily reading with me and an unknown number of others. Each day it infuriates me. I know she probably has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (based only on my own personal research). My partner kindly tells me, "It is more important for her to send the messages than it is for you to read them." That makes sense to me, but I still get sick to my stomach with each daily message.
I was to "unsubscribe." I didn't ask for this. I don't want this. And yet, I'm sure it's her version of communicating. I still want to give her the benefit of the doubt. Argh! I'm being SPAM'd by my mother! And I'm not sure what to do about it.


















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~~Oh, I feel for you. I
~~Oh, I feel for you. I have told people to not forward me jokes and chain letters etc...Only Personal Notes. Tell your mother this. She sounds quite selfish...You may have to accept that. But I can understand your frustration completely.... ~~Kim
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~Laura
How to delete the emotions, too.
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Yep. Get SPAM emails from dysfunctional mother. Check. Feel frustration with each receipt. Check. Delete them since asking for them to stop opens a can of worms that even I won't tackle. Check. Delete, delete, delete. Just delete. Haha. And don't tell any therapist I said so. "Trust Life's unfolding..."
Your secret is safe with me!
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