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By raquel, Sunday, February 21, 2010
Checking the ‘single’ box used to not mean anything unless you’re filing taxes. People lose friends when they have kids and now the same rule applies to being single. I’m a single girl drowning in a pool of couples.
It all started a few months when the unspoken rule was revealed to me. Someone was telling me how she had so much fun at game night with her boyfriend (for hundredth time). Naturally, I asked why I was never invited. I suggested that I would bring a friend as my partner. I knew something wasn’t right when there was hesitation. “That will never happen. You’re not invited because you are NOT a couple,” she says. “Wow”, is all I could say in shock. It caught me completely off guard. And she was serious….and I was speechless!
People become too engrossed with their relationships. Before they became a member of the exclusive Couple Club, they were scoping the Single Scene with me. As soon as their status changes, they disappear. It’s as if I am a rent-a-friend and my lease ends when they get a boyfriend. As soon as they break up, my cell is ringing off the hook.
Couples act as if they’re allergic to us. It’s completely fine for us to be at an outing with couples (and other singles). We won’t break down. The only time we don’t want to be invited is when we will be the wheel. This Saturday, a close friend told me her plans to go dancing for her birthday. She told me her boyfriend and siblings were going. I replied asking if this was a couple’s night. She said yes, but her sister was not a couple because her friend was coming. That’s when the confusion set in. I asked why I was not invited because we are close friends. Her reply was because I told her I didn’t want to be around couples! As my eyes rolled, I found myself getting upset. This was the same friend who agreed that the ‘you’re not a couple’ rule was ridiculous. Now I felt like she was doing the same thing. I didn’t think that by me saying I don’t want to be around couples (a few months prior) could be misunderstood that I meant I didn’t want to be a wheel (like I had been with her and boyfriend too many Friday nights). I just always assumed that no one ever signed up for the third or fifth wheel position.
I have never been that girl that ditches my friends for a guy. I make time for both. In life, I believe people should divide their time is three- self, friends and family, partner/spouse. At the end of the day, men come and go. Friends are supposed to be tattoos. They should never leave your side.
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