Dilemma

This weekend I had a few extra days off so I went to my parents house to take care of some wedding planning business. The weekend went okay and then Monday night rolled around.

My younger sister and I got into an arguement in the bathroom. I was packing up my tolietries and she comes in and DEMANDS that I get out of her bathroom. (We've always shared a bathroom and there is another bathroom down the hall.). I tell her she can have it after I finish. She procedes to scream and yell at me. My dad starts to yell at me from the living room about being a selfish brat.

I leave the bathroom and walk into the living room. My dad continues to yell at me, calling me a baby, selfish, selfcentered. He then says something like "Why'd you even pay to get your eyebrows done today if you were going to fuck them up yourself?" I hadn't touched my eyebrows since the lady did them at the nail salon. I asked him why he had to get involved with the arguement my sister and I were having and then told him to not yell at me like a child.. He said something similar to  "This is my house. I control what happens in this house. Don't you think you can tell me what the hell to do."

He keeps ranting and jumps out of his chair and pins me against the nearby bookcase, with my arms above my head. He keeps screaming in my face. Let me go. More screaming and ranting. Let me go.  Still more. At this poingmy sister has entered the room and is cheering "Get her! Get her!" Let me go. I raise my knee to his groin, they way he taught me to defend myself. He screams at me. "Don't you dare thinking about kicking me. I swear to god I will..." He takes my hand and knocks me across the head with it. I knee him. He lets me go. But in the process swipes my keys and phone from the buffet.

He yells at me "You have two choices get the hell out and don't come back and I'm keeping your keys and phone or stay in your room for the rst of the night and don't let me hear you again."

With noone to turn to within walking distance I went to my childhood room and cried for the next hour and a half. Eventually I fell asleep. My family gathered in the living room to watch the newest episdoe of Big Bang Theory.

I left in the morning, after an hour long hunt for my keys. That night I recived an email from my mother. This is what it said "Thanks for telling us bye".

Now, heres the dilemma:

My family was going to pay for my wedding. They probably haven't retracted that offer, since they want to act like nothing happened.

I refuse to act like nothing happend. I want them to have nothing to do with my wedding.

None of my other family has the money to help me have even a twice scaled down version of  my dream wedding.

Now, I have to figure out how  we can still get married. He's oaky with a courthouse wedding .Actually, he'd prefer a vegas wedding. I want something a little more real. And I've put a significant down payment on a dress already. I think that a wedding should be a celebration, so I'd prefer it if more than just the two of us could attend. I'm thinking 15 people would be nice

I've come up with a few ideas but I could really use some fresh prespective.

But here's what I've got so far:

I'm going to ask the church I attend if I can have a quick ceremony following church on that Sunday, so that I won't have to pay the $800 fee for custodians and music directors. The pastor is a very caring man and I plan to explain the situation to him after church on Sunday.

Option 2: My college has a log cabin I could rent for $100/hour or $350 all day. It will only hold about 8 people seated . We could get married in frnt of the fire place. But the door is right near the fireplace so I wouldn't get to walk down anything. I guess we could shift the room around.