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By Purple Promises..., Friday, April 15, 2011, 6 commentsWhen I had my children who are about to be 26 and 21...no one was getting pregnancy photos.
So this is my question:
If you were pregnant and you had a 13 year old daughter and a 2 year old son, would you want to take pictures with you and your husband and your two children as a family unit?
Would you also take pictures with just you and your 2 year old son but not with just you and your 13 year old daughter?
Ater you answer the above scenario,
What would you do if the 13 year old was actually your step daughter?
Just curious...
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Yes, yes, and yes
I never took pregnancy pictures and I regret it. Yes I would take them as a family and yes I would take one with just my stepdaughter and me. I actually had a step-daughter too. And I especially appreciate the fact now that she is the childrens' sister. They love her so much because she is their sister and they get so excited when she comes to visit. She lives out of state and she's 21 now. The children are 10 & 7. I wish I'd captured pictures of them when they were in my belly and with their sister.
Yes,yes and yes...my thoughts exactly!!!
I have a goddaughter in this situation. I wish she could see it this way. Sadly she can't.
She claims that even if it were her own daughter she thinks it would be "inappropriate".
For the life of me I cannot understand why that would be inappropriate.
I was afraid to even post my question...so far you are my only reply...even if no one else responds...yours was perfect for me.
Your step daughter and family are lucky to have you in their life.
Thank you.
...Carol
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Carole- Can you explain this to me again? I am not "getting "something. Maybe I don't know what pregnancy photos are? Are they when the mama wears white and there are these staged shots with them fawning all over her? LOL!
But even though I am not quite "getting" this... it seems to me the photos would be based on teh relationship with the step- daughter. I would certainly invite her, because isn't a step-daughter supposed to be just like a regular daughter, except witha another "real" parent. If you don;t at least try to include them , it seems like it is saying a bad thing about that relationship.
Susan...
Susan,
Yes, you are understanding correctly...the photos with a small child such as the 2 year old would be him touching her tummy, hugging her, maybe kissing her tummy.
I would assume a 13 year old step daughter might pose in different ways. She has been in this little girls life since age 5. (8 years time)
I think it would be very hurtful to the 13 year old, and also what you said ,saying a bad thing about the relationship.
My Goddaughter is ok with her being in pictures as a group...but not alone with her.
I say take all the scenarios what could that hurt. Does not mean you have to hang them on the wall. It would save alot of feelings...for the 13 year old and the father.
There is a common thread between the father, the daughter, the two year old and the yet to be born child...they are all connected via a blood line, how does one person get pushed aside...I just don't understand that.
She can achieve what she wants and still let the rest of the family achieve what they want too.
I'm also not saying she has to "like doing it". Wonder where this would fall in the book we are reading....lol
Somethimes the "right" thing to do is the hardest of all.
...Carol
Yes, bottom line- what would
Yes, bottom line- what would it hurt? How would she feel if this girl decided later to exclude her from activities with the father?
To Susan...
Or worse, her husband excluded her from activities with his daughter.
Wow, that would be a wake up call.
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