Real-life model ... Arthur Miller with Marilyn Monroe.

Let’s get something strait from the get go: women have evolved more than men. And as far as attraction goes, we have the capacity to observe deep inside the soul, rather than gawking at one's ass or physical attributes. Yes, we have evolved, honey. What other reason would we find Tommy Lee Jones, James Woods, Mick Jagger, and Woody Allen sexy as hell?  It’s about intellect not biceps.  It’s about a man who can fuse a sentence together that’s interesting, worthwhile, exciting. 

Women are turned on by brains. It doesn't matter a damn if a man looks like Brad Pitt, well, (maybe a little). If he is stupid, women will not pursue him further. Unlike most men (not all), who would not even consider dating an unattractive woman, even if she were brilliant. But those same men would absolutely, without hesitation, date {go to bed with} a complete idiot whom happens to be gorgeous, blonde, and stacked.

To survive in Hollywood, men don't need to be beautiful. Just look at Sean Penn. My god, the sex oozes from this barracuda, this intellectual, this bad boy. But is he what our culture would consider good-looking? No, I don’t think so. Penn is unbelievably smart, remarkably rebellious, completely compassionate and a humanitarian. We love him for that. We want to kiss him for that. Yea, I'm talking, an intense French kiss for that.

The female gender observes internal traits. Remember Marilyn Monroe's second husband, Arthur Miller? Come on, this guy was unattractive, skinny, and old, old enough to be Monroe’s grandfather. But Monroe didn't care about Miller’s outer appearance; she was more interested in his brains, discussing Dostoevsky, Tolstoy, and Joyce; she was more fascinated by Miller's writing ability and knowledge than his lack of beauty. To women, these interior things are sexy and seductive.

A confident man can give a woman an orgasm. Enter Tommy Lee Jones. Oh, baby. Or should I say we want to have his baby. If we observed Jones walking down the street, we may turn to our girlfriend and whisper, "Yuk." But when that man smiles, watch out!

Jones knows he could have any woman he wants, not because he's striking, but because of his self-assurance, his body language, his confidence.. Women recognize this immediately.    And we respond.

Can you imagine women like Barbra Streisand, Kathy Bates, Meryl Streep, Hilary Clinton, or Nancy Pelosi being referred to as sexy?  Not in this lifetime. Men consider women such as these a threat, intimidating, and either by nature or nurture, bitches. What a shame.

Kathy Bates had a breathtaking scene in "About Schmidt." Picture it: Jack Nicholson relaxing in a bubbling hot tub alone. And Bates walks up to the tub and asks Nicholson, "Mind if I join you?" Before he has a chance to answer, Bates drops her fluffy towel and hops in. Now, Bates is not a small woman, but she reveals every roll and fold and both beautiful drooping breasts. She was stunning. She was every woman who undresses in the dark, but desires to undress in the light.

Empowerment. Liberation. A small step for women-kind. Real Women loved this scene, but men thought it revolting. Why?

It comes down to this; women have evolved. We can survey the inside of a person {a man}, and it doesn't matter a damn what his outside looks like: a grin, compassion, intelligence, kindness, eye contact, somebody who laughs at our jokes, even the books he reads. This is important stuff. This matters.

Sexy ugly works in Hollywood, but only for men. And until society begins grasping that (most) women are refusing to conform to society’s big knockered, bleach blonde ideal, men will remain undeveloped, immature, and ignorant. In other words, un-evolved!

Top Ten Sexy Ugly Men in Hollywood:

Tommy Lee Jones, Woody Allen, Sean Penn, James Woods, Mick Jagger, David Caruso, William Defoe, Robert Deniro, Jack Black, and Ray Liotta

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