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DrDarcy

Sex Therapist and Author

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The Second Sexual Revolution

The revolution of sexual acceptance

The first sexual revolution in the 1960’s was about sexual freedom.

Today, the second sexual revolution is about sexual acceptance.

Acceptance starts with the self.  Acceptance of yourself as a sexual person means allowing, developing, and creating a sexual identity for yourself.  Fully embracing who you are and what you like and being able to express it is sexual self-acceptance.

The revolution of sexual acceptance expands to the acceptance, not merely the tolerance for those of us who once worked toward tolerating sexual differences, but acceptance the colorful spectrum of sexual expression.

The first, sexual self acceptance sounds so very simple.  Most people would say, Yes, of course I accept who I am sexually. 

Yet, EVERY DAY as a sex therapist, I see people who are regular everyday people, who are stuck in accepting and expression their own sexuality.  I am not talking about people who are gay, in bi-racial relationships, or even transsexuals.  I am talking about heterosexual men and women, as well, who can not easily talk about sex, even to their closest partner, indeed, their sexual partner, who, perhaps they have shared a sexual relationship for years.

Ask yourself:  Can you talk about sex?  Do you have a sexual voice?  Can you say what you like and what you don’t like?  Do you have sexual discomfort or pain, but you don’t talk about it?  Can you even say, “higher, lower, faster, slower,” or YES and NO and mean it every time?

Sexual acceptance means that you can say who you are, what you feel, what you want and not fear disappointing someone or feeling guilty, but rather you speak so you can express freely who you are now.

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DrDarcy