How did I wind up in the middle of this?

I've been debating about whether to write this post for more than a month now, but the drama contained is just too much to resist.  I didn't want to stir up any more pain for some of the people involved, but heck this is the stuff of soap operas.   Earlier in September Miss Attitude received the following e-mail:

hi, my name is [deleted]. I am [deleted]'s husband.  After finding many of her text and emails, she admitted to me that she had been sleeping with [deleted], also in [location deleted] and on Twitter.  that is where they messaged back and forth and quite openly. I noticed that there are AlOT of text between you and [deleted], some talking about how you loved how my wife gave [deleted] a hard time, etc.  We have a 2 year old daughter that is caught up in the middle of this. He has 2 young sons as well. I guess I'm just trying to understand more than anything. She has already admitted, but I'm just trying to understand how this can happen to our daughter. If was just me, that would be one thing, but this is tearing my world apart knowing that our daughter (whom she talked to him about alot) and his kids are in the middle of this. That stupid piece of trash locked himself in the house and called the cops just from me knoocking on his door. i don't think it's too much to ask for the man who did this to my family to look me in the eyes.  anyways, like I said, I noticed alot of emails back and forth between you two, and alot containing [deleted] name.  I don't care about what happens to me, I just want the best for my daughter. I've changed my whole life around for her. Gave up all the things that could hurt her, and this is what I'm left with.  Please, if you know of any other people, please let me know. I just cant stand to see my daughter hurt anymore.  There are alot of messages between her and an [deleted] from [deleted], do you know anything about him?  I really do apologize for this email out of the blue, but mine, my daughters, and that piece of tras[h] [deleted] kids have been hurt so bad by all this, just so they could get off. Please, if you know of more, please let me know.  I can't stand for anymore of this to keep going on.

I have to tell you, I had no idea these two were having an affair.  The woman involved did seem a bit unhappy in her marriage based on some of her comments, but it was really none of my concern since I didn't know her in the real world.  I do know the man involved, and would never have expected something like this from him.  That said, looking back I can now see how some of my responses on Twitter may have looked to an angry, heart-broken man looking for answers.  I did, in fact, tease and taunt all in good fun.  That's what we do on these social media sites.  

Anyone who knows me, or has read this blog long enough, will know I don't condone cheating.  



Instead, I've gotten up here on my soapbox several times about how I can't understand how married people cheat on the person they're supposed to love more than anyone in the world.  I don't know how someone can plot and lie for weeks, months or years at a time, and not have the guilt eat him or her alive.  

So did a few posts of 140 characters or less on a Website give a husband the idea I knew about and encouraged an affair?  I certainly hope it didn't.  It does go to show that people ARE reading what you write online and can interpret it however they want.  But I can't help but wonder, is social media making it even easier for people to cheat on their spouses?  Or does the increased possibility of getting caught just make it more thrilling?

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

www.missattitude.us