I'm Irresistible (and so are you)

I read a lot. Tons. Magazines, books, and more books. Mostly books. I'm always reading something. A world without words is just plain boring to me.

Last week, I had dinner with a friend and she told me (very lovingly) that I have a wall up. I don't come across as someone who is approachable to the outside world. I look standoffish to other people. I look unhappy.

It took a moment for her comments to sink in, and then I realized that she's right. She's absolutely right.

I have let my poor self esteem get in the way of my life. Because I feel badly about myself physically, I portray a sense of unhappiness. I come across as someone who doesn't want to be bothered because deep down inside, I feel like people won't like me. They'll think I'm too fat. They'll see all of my flaws if they get too close to me. They won't like me.

My natural reaction was to go to Barnes & Noble the next morning and load up on books. I spent around $160 on new books... books on self esteem, books on dating, books on happiness. You name it, I bought it. 

One of the books that jumped out at me was a book that I would not normally have even noticed. But, with the mindset I was in at the time, it appealed to me. It's called Make Every Man Want You by Marie Forleo. I devoured it in one sitting. (A very quick read.)

The title of the book is somewhat misleading because the book is really about us women and not so much about men. It's about being the best you. Dressing the part. Showing up for your life.

One of the things Forleo talks about in the book is being irresistible. She says we are all irresistible as is. Right now. Whatever shape or size we come in. We are totally irresistible. 

We're not irresistible only when we achieve some milestone in the future (losing weight, getting a makeover, etc.). We are irresistible now. 

Ever since reading the book, I've been mentally telling myself every day that I'm irresistible. And, you know what? People have started treating me differently. 

Yesterday, I had two guys flirt with me. Do you know how long it's been since that's happened? Trust me... it was years ago. 

So, two guys flirting with me in one day? Wow. Maybe this irresistible thing really works. 

When I look in the mirror now, I have only been noticing things I like about myself physically. Whatever flaws I have no longer jump out at me. They're not the first things I see, as they had been for so many years. I am looking at myself with new lenses on... lenses that see the good that I have to offer. 

I think I'm carrying myself differently now. I feel happier. I've been spending more time getting myself ready in the morning. I've put on jewelry and added the extra touches that I hadn't bothered with before. I'm investing more time in me.

And, it's starting to show. People are noticing. Guys are noticing.

I'm going to keep telling myself that I'm irresistible. Right now. Not when I finally lose weight. When I buy a new wardrobe. After I get a pedicure, or my eyebrows waxed or a new haircut. Right now.

I'm irresistible and so are you. Why not start acting like it?