I need love advice...

If there is ONE thing I've learned from men...YOU CANNOT CHANGE THEM..... Sure, you can compromise, but in the end, you must leave them or accept them for who they are.  Dylan sounds like a great guy.  It woud be sooooooooo much worse if he were a drunk and a cheater..... Another reason he may not like going out is because--as you said, he gets crazy intoxicated.  He may not know when to quit...so instead, he stays away from the temptation.  If you want to go out and party, you may need to do this without him. If you want to stay together without arguing, you may need to accept him for exsacty who he is.  Good Luck.~Kim  

Yes; I am so happy he is not one of those college students who constantly get drunk. When he does drink, he typically likes to drink a lot (because he only drinks like once every few months). He really doesn't have a strong idea on when to stop drinking. But, it's so nice having a boyfriend that is serious about schooling and his sport. I don't really want to change anything about him. I just wish he would give more time to doing things I enjoy; that seems fair, right? 

yes, completely fair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(Disclaimer: I'm only saying this because you asked for advice, so feel free to ignore).  What if you just go to parties and stop trying to make him go?  Okay, you say you're not outgoing enough but you could still try it.  You could ask a friend to go, or a roommate, or a girl you kinda-sorta know, or go with a big group.  You're just looking for is somebody to go to parties and concerts with so you don't need to over think it. You're at college.  There are a ton of random people to hang out with on occasion.  Invite some along.  Or go alone.  Seriously.

Who goes to parties alone?  I do.  All. The. Time.  I have a fabulous time.  And you know what?  When I was 18 or 19 I barely even went out to dinner without my boyfriend, forget a party.  But I made myself do things by myself or with my friends, and I discovered it could be wonderful.  Because I was meeting new people by being out without a person to automatically talk to all the time, I met lots of new people and developed closer friendships.  I had a fantastic social life in college, but only after I stopped going everywhere with my boyfriend.

That boyfriend by the way?  Most social person ever.  In student government, knew everyone on campus, knew about every party, would have gone out every night of the week had he not been me, the girl who stayed home to read.  Most of my relationships have been with very outgoing people, some of whom have pressured me to go out when I wanted to stay home, which always just made me want to stay home even more.  And when I did go because a boyfriend dragged me along, he was the only person I talked to all night.  Trust me when I say that having a hyper-social partner isn't necessarily helpful in developing a social life.

Focus on having the social life you want without trying to bring your boyfriend along. Then go home to him at the end of the night.  Maybe you'll love it, and maybe sometimes he'll be inspired by how much you enjoy it and come along.  Or maybe he won't, but you'll have lots of other people to hang out with and an awesome boyfriend.  Or (gasp!) maybe you'll try it, discover that the whole myth of wild college parties aren't as much fun as a boring weekend in with somebody you love, and that's okay too.

NiceBuddhistGrrrl

"I'm tired of having a boring social life... we just stay home and watch movies... he got insanely intoxicated... It's not fair for me to constantly put my life on hold." You like to go out and he doesn't. You compromise and he doesn't. On your first visit to his apartment, he chugged a beer, and since then he has demonstrated a serious inability to establish limits with alcohol. When you talk to him about what you want in the relationship, it turns into an argument. Why are you still in this relationship? My guess is that Dylan makes you feel safe, there's a certain degree of comfort in the familiarity, and you're more than a little afraid to venture out on your own. My advice to you: go out on your own, even if it's scary. Go out on your own because it's scary. The transition from the end of your teens to adulthood requires courage, and the payoff is wonderful. Have fun, go dancing, try out different activities that are your choice alone. Become a woman who attracts interesting, active, supportive friends by developing those traits in yourself. Oh, and about Dylan--whatever his fine qualities are, he has an alcohol problem. The first tip is that beer he chugged in two seconds (impressive!) and the clue that followed is the "insanely intoxicated" party-goer he becomes. No matter how infrequently he drinks, if he drinks to get drunk, he is a drunk. If he won't consider counseling, do the hard, scary thing. Wish him well, and say goodbye.

Thanks for all the advice. I'm not afraid of going out on my own; I would just rather have someone to go out with me. Of course, I haven't described my whole relationship with Dylan, which is impossible to do, so it's hard for anyone to get a real grasp of what is going on. And my boyfriend doesn't have a drinking problem. When you first started drinking, didn't you go a little crazy, too? It's part of being a kid. But thanks for your concern.