Friends Vs. Family

I am very sad this week, and have been contemplating whether or not it is possible to remain friends with someone who has decided that she can’t stand your husband. Can’t stand him to the point of saying she does not ever want to be around him again.

Now, it is true that he comes across as arrogant and abrasive – that is just his personality. Lots of people get the wrong impression of him and decide that they don’t like him. But underneath it all he is a big teddy bear, and she has spent enough time with us to realize that. Plus this came out of the blue, she has never indicated that she had a problem with him so I never even saw it coming. She actually reminds him of his evil step mother (and she really was evil), but he has always set that aside and has made an effort to be friends with her because he loves me. He has always made an effort to include her son in things he does with our son – he has taken both boys to see monster trucks on several occasions. And he is always encouraging me to invite them over for dinner (she is a single mom and doesn’t do much other than work and church).

I love her because she is the type of friend that you can spend hours on the phone with, or you can get together and craft and really not say much of anything. That kind of close friendship that allows you to just be comfortable in one another’s presence, and to be their when the other one needs you.

I really don’t know why I am blogging about this. I realize that it is scattered and probably doesn’t make a whole lot of sense to an outside reader. I think I am just trying to get all these thoughts and feelings out where I can see them.  Am I wrong to think that a friendship has to end just because the friend can’t stand your husband? Is it even possible to maintain a close friendship with that knowledge hovering between you?