Man...Fuck the Diet (Again).

I just blogged about this myself.  Guilt sucks and indulgence in moderation is healthy.  Obsessing over weight is such a waste of time especially when you have so many more fun things to think about like fall weather...etc.  I also believe in the What Not to Wear motto:  it's about dressing your body that you have today and not about the one you wish you had or covering up the one you have because you feel un-pretty.  Go shopping and find a good outfit that fits and this will be the first step to letting go of that guilt! :)  Also, I hope to read an article or book by you soon!  It's Sonia by the way. :)

Hi Sonia!  Thanks for the comraderie!  I remember reading your blog post about that.   I think that's what started me thinking about it!  Nice to know you're a fellow Skirt! gal as well.  I love What Not to Wear.  You're so right.  It is really about finding the right outfit for the right body.  Still plugging away on trying to get some stuff published.  I was lucky earlier this year and had some pieces out.  They're up on my website if you wanna check it out.  celenacipriaso.com.  Hope you're well!

I've definitely been there.  For me, what tends to help me make healthier choices is noticing how I feel physically after I eat something.  If I feel like I want to crash and take a nap, I vow to make a healthier choice next time since I don't like feeling that way.  I make sure not to beat myself up about eating something that was not in line with my "diet" (I try not to use that word!).  And I always tell myself that nothing is ever perfect and it isn't supposed to be, therefore if I stray once in a while it isn't then end of the world.  In general I try to be pretty healthy, but last night, hehe, I had three chocolate donuts warmed up in the microwave.  lol.  I didn't scold myself but I did notice that I felt super bloated and sleepy afterwards, and therefore will rethink the choice next time.  Haha

Also, I don't know if you're into food blogs or not, but recently I've become super obsessed with health food/fitness blogs.  They just give you so many ideas of healthy meals/desserts to make that are also delicious.  My favorite is fitnessista.com.  

P.S. Who said you couldn't have second servings??  It's quality, not quantity!! :)

Since you asked...

Don't mow me over, but I'm way older and less drunk than you (laughter).  I practiced dieting for over thirty years.  Here's my sage wisdom... (I guess you can stop reading here/now).

Each body is unique (duh), but be on a mission to find the protein type foods that work best with your energy and how you feel.  Be creative and willing to love veggies (the not-starchy kind:  as in not white potatoes).  Minimize white bread intake (it's lousy for your body, your metabolism, your digestive track).

If you love "crunch", get into sugar snap peas and jicama.  Salad of course.

Develop a love for quality olive oil with qualit balsamic vinegar in your salad.

That's on the food side.  You already know that "processed sugar" may taste good for three seconds and wreaks havoc thereafter.  Your body works like an SOB trying to metabolize and balance it.

Separate your mind/thoughts FROM the workings of your body.  We blame our bodies for looking and behaving the way they do, but they're obligated by what our minds choose to give them.  Our bodies (under the skin) have so much to deal with ~ they have no opinion how our butts, bellies, or arms appear on the outside.  They have their inside job.

Work with your thoughts and your mind because THAT you CAN change, program, adapt.  Taste can be modified as well as what we crave (which typically is habit or an imbalance or avoiding/dealing emotionally). 

Finding the solutions to your personal puzzle (in this department), is what you get to do for the rest of your life.  So, choose... you want to keep yourself in turmoil - or free yourself from it?  It's a mind/emotion thing.

1.   Be willing to feed YOUR BODY healthfully, exercise it, have compassion and be kind to it ~ and it will express itself in its most natural way ~ which is beautiful FOR ALL OF YOU.  (whatever the media pushes, is such bull shit, so unkind, and temporary)  (You are incredibly bright and lovely ~ you are as kick-ass as they come ~ so if you buy into how anyone else APPEARS on the outside, you're not giving yourself true credit for all you have going for yourself...even the beer-loving.)

2.  If you don't like the results you are feeling (or thinking), seek to blaze a new  trail, build a new cow path ~~ be your own (spiritual) scientist on behalf of amazing you.  (i.e.  if you feel this is a trigger, or that typically pulls you down like gravity, pre-plan your alternate route or choice and support the NEW DEAL with your actions.) KNOW in advance that old patterns fight hard (like an addiction or crappy habit)... it tries to con you, lure you, tell you "this time it's okay" -- or "you've done really well - you deserve x"....  WAKE UP... be alert to the "old deal" that will fight hard to get you back.  (who is really in charge?)

3.  If you haven't had labs done, do get a baseline and to rule out you're not having some hormonal glitch or a tired thyroid, etc. 

4.  Like Sonia & fitsandgiggles shared -- be inspired by healthy blogs, give yourself some freedom fun with clothes (focusing on details that make you smile...).    

5. Get curious and interested learning about how your mind and thoughts work - more than how to make your body fit.  Deprivation is a mindset.  Sometimes "hunger" isn't hunger ~ learn the difference (in you)

6.  Your gratitude is front and center - and keep THAT going.  For every complaint or "feeling" of guilt/upset/resistance/resentment - insist on its opposite.  Tit for Tat.  Always finish with a POSITIVE. 

7. Feel free to check out more http://heatherlaree.com/   (not shamelessly plugging but take a theme a week and work it)    I have some other posts here on skirt! on the whole mind/body/emotion/spirit topic (Emotional Freedom Technique, Three bites, White Space, etc.) 

8.  And, it may really serve you to write funny and pissed off and that's cool so long as you know what the deal is. 

9.  Keep writing and creating ~ I think you're adorable (without knowing how you physically appear).

Peace ~

heather

Well said, heatherlaree!

Thanks for the comments, everyone! Wonderful to read everyone's POV.