Good Advice

After learning that grown folk really don’t appreciate good, sound advice, I decided to stop giving it.

Many of us have friends/family members/loved ones who ask for advice, when the truth is, they won’t take the advice and put it to use. They will cry on your shoulder, rant and rave, and then ask for advice and sometimes even thank you for it. But in the end, your advice went in one ear and out the other. They may have heard you, but they definitely weren’t listening.

Why ask for advice that you have no plans on using?

I have come to the conclusion that for those who have a history of disregarding sound advice, I will no longer offer it. I will be their shoulder to cry on, I will be the friend who listens to them bitch and scream about their problems, but  being that I know that they will in the end do as they please I will not offer any advice. Yes they may have a legitimate problem that most likely they caused and yes I told them years ago that they were part of the problem, but they didn’t listen then and here we are three years later and they still ignore good advice, so the advice stops here. No more friendly advice from me on situations where you used bad judgment which usually is what got you in the mess in the first place. The only advice I will offer will be “really”, “oh my”, “girl did he?” or similar comments. No more stern, matter of fact, to the point advice. Why waste my good advice on deaf ears?

Now as for myself, when it comes to advice, I don’t use good advice either and that is mainly because I generally don’t ask for it. I realized years ago that I am quite stubborn and when it comes to the messes I get myself in, asking others for advice only helps me to feel pity for myself. Bringing other people in on the messy behavior is like a bulletin of my mistakes, so I’d rather create the messes and quietly clean them up by myself.