Why We Need to Dare to Tell Stories Raw & Real

I have several new clients lately that are all seeking to get to the heart of something beautiful raw and real inside of themselves - to be able to tell their stories in an open, honest and vulnerable format.

So you might wonder - why is it so hard?

It honestly is.  They are not just making it up.  It seems ludicrous in one sense that you actually have to go to someone to help them tell your story.  Why can't you just blurt it out? 

What's so hard about it anyway?

But here's the thing - it actually is hard.  These folks coming to me to tell their stories are coming because they are brave human beings.  They feel the call deep down inside and they know, just know that they have to articulate, express or share something with the world and that they need some help, structure or support to do that.

These folks are the smart ones who instinctively know that it is nearly impossible to tell these stories on your own.  It is because people in our world don't really want to hear the truth.  If you don't believe me just try this experiment...

Next time you are somewhere and someone you barely know asks how you are.  Stop.  Pause.  Look them in the eye and tell them the honest to god, real and vulnerable truth.

"Well now that you asked, actually I'm having a few money problems, my back is a bit aching from yoga, my boyfriend just left me and my dog is sick....and....and....and...."

Don't bother to finish because the sentence because they are already gone.  If they haven't walked physically away, trust me they've gone away inside. 

A few months ago when I wrote my Raw & Real Stories about a painful relationship breakup, I actually experienced this.  Someone inquired about how I was doing and though I'm not a person that just spills out my personal life to everyone, I started to honestly tell her the truth.  I thought she really wanted to know.  But as soon as I started, I saw her physically backing up so I stopped.

People aren't prepared to know the painful truth!  Ouch.  It brings up the pain in them.  So when you craft a story of your own, first you need to get it out raw and real.  You need someone to listen to you carefully, not to judge and definitely not to back away no matter what you say.

The message that I need to send people when I listen is - "I'm here, I'm not going anywhere and I won't back away no matter how hard it gets."  You can do it too.

That's really powerful.  Imagine just how life changing that one message can be - I'm here, I'm not going away.

If you remember or read my Raw and Real stories, there was one in which my friend Leslie came running towards me and body hugged me.  That was just the message I needed - a big real hug that said, "I'm not going away."

So that is why people don't dare to tell their stories raw and real - because they fear that no one will be there when then are done, that everyone will go away because the painful truth is too awful.  It's not.

Today send this message to everyone in your life - I'm here, I'm not going away and I will listen no matter how hard it gets.  Story-telling is life changing for this reason.  It's not about entertainment, it's the deepest form of life change there is.

When we change our stories, we change the world.

Today dare to tell yours raw and real and encourage others to tell theirs too.  You'll notice how much closer you feel, how much more love and vitality is in your life.

Today don't back away from pain but go right to the juicy heart of what's real.

Yours in sharing stories that make a difference in the world,

Annie