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By angel_eyes_626us, Tuesday, August 31, 2010, 4 commentsMost of the time I don't really think about my mother, but sometimes I realize how much easier my life would be if I had a "normal" one.
If I had a normal mother she would have went to my wedding. She wouldn't have said she thought it was fake because it was at city hall. She would have gone anyway. Even if she thought I was making a mistake.
If I had a normal mother she would back me up when I need someone's shoulder to cry on. She wouldn't always take his side and say that I'm the one who needs to change or I'll lose him. She would look into my eyes and say, baby you know you deserve better than that! She would tell me he's being an a$$hole. She would support ME.
If I had a normal mother she would take my kids for the weekend. She would come to their birthday parties. She would visit on holidays. She would love, and laugh, and enjoy being a mother, and being a grandmother.
There must be grandmothers out there who would be willing to adopt me. Who says that once your 18 you don't need to belong to someone anymore? That you don't need to be someones little girl?
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Oh honey, I'm so sorry. I was
Oh honey, I'm so sorry. I was gonna say the usual: "Mothers and daughters are complicated." But it seems your situation is vastly different. I guess the only thing you can do is break the cycle, be the mother she never was to you. If my grandmother was still alive, I'd ask her to adopt you. :)
I think it's possible
I think there must be awesome, wonderful older women out there who'd want to take a mom-like role in your life and be a kind of grandma to your kids. Right, folks?
Maybe you could a retirement community and see if they need volunteers. My sister used to garden for these little old ladies she knew through synagogue and they were adorable quasi-grandmas after our incredible grandmother passed away. You're right; the mom role doesn't end when somebody grows up, and you deserve older women in your life who you love and who love you. Good luck.
I try very hard to be the
I try very hard to be the parent I always wanted. I hope that when I have grandkids I get to be the quintessential grandmother. Baking cookies, spoiling, and enjoying grandkids.
Thank you two for your kind words. I may just start looking into volunteer work for my kids and I.
xoxo
You are a wonderful mommy,
You are a wonderful mommy, and yeah volunteer work is good, even if you don't find an adoptive grandma by doing it, it is an amazing gift to teach your kids to respect others and help people who need it, volunteering has always made me feel like I am part of something bigger than myself.
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